The Chronicles Of Nay

Happy Tuesday! I hope that everyone is having a great start to the week! This week is going to be awesome! We are talking about space exploration this week! It is my favorite unit to teach. I like space, yes, but the kids enjoy it too! They have so many questions, I do a lot of googling during this unit! Haha I have had some very strange dreams lately. Last week I had a dream that Pierce started buying high top shoes because she couldn’t find pants long enough. We had talked about her looking for pants, ut that was weeks ago! I don’t know where that dream came from! Haha A few nights ago I had a dream about an old friend. A person that I haven’t talked to in years, Like 7 years. Our friendship ended a bit abruptly and confusingly. So when I woke up from that dream I got to thinking. Not so much about her but mainly some of my other friendships. Some of my friendships are growing, some of my friendships I feel slipping away, and some I feel have already slipped away. 

If we have ever talked about friendship you have heard The story about my grandpa having gone to a palm reader and her telling him that he and his descendants were cursed to never be able to keep friends. So it is what I use to explain when I have friend trouble. It is sometimes easier to say that the curse has hit then to think another friendship is over. Over the last year or so I’ve done some self-reflection. I tend to jump into a friendship all the way. I meet you and I’m like hey this is my friend and it’s going to be awesome and we’re going to get along great. I’ve done that most of my life and for the most part it’s done me well. I have made some great friends that have lasted many years! However, it doesn’t always end that way. I tend to be a pretty good judge of character but sometimes when I use my jump first figure it out later mentality I look back and realize that I didn’t listen to my gut instinct.

Quite a few years ago I had a pretty horrible break up with somebody I thought was one of my closest friends. That one was a horrible breakup. I cried for a long time over that one. Even years after when I would talk about that friendship or something about that friendship or when we broke up or whatever that situation was I would still cry. I was hurt because in the grand scheme of things I realized I was much more invested in it than she was. Looking back I was naive about parts of our friendship, I had justified away the little feeling in my gut, and I let her use me. 

Well, another friendship has fallen victim to the curse haha! I know I’ve heard it all don’t give the curse the validity. People come into our lives for a reason and a season and all of the things that rhyme and all of those things. I’ve heard them. I know them. That doesn’t make it any easier. I’ve recently done some self reflection and I realize that this friendship might be over but there were definitely some things I learned from it. I hope you learned just as much for me as I learned from you. I don’t think you will ever read this because I don’t think you ever really supported me but here’s a list of things I learned from this latest friendship breakup that hopefully will help someone else!

1. Always trust your gut!
2. The people that care about you the most don’t judge you for being the most authentic you. Friendship doesn’t judge!
3. Support isn’t always rainbows and butterflies.  But you should never feel like they don’t want you to succeed. 
4. Your closest friends will tell you the truth, no matter what that might be. But they always do it to help you grow!
5. If you tell someone something is bothering you… talk it out! Don’t let them convince you that it’s not a problem. Or that something they feel is a bigger problem
6. It’s okay to stand up for yourself
7. You should never have to justify your friendship to people. That usually means that there is something wrong somewhere! 
8. You should never feel pressured to do things in a friendship. 
9. Communication is a two way street
10. Your ideas are valid too! You don’t always have to be the one that adjusts. 

Our friendship wasn’t all frustrations but a wise man (my dad) once told me when the bad starts to outweigh the good then it is time to move on. He might have been talking about something else but I think it fits here too! That friendship came to an end, I will treasure the good times and I will take the learned lessons and be a better friend in the future! 

The more I reflect on friendship the more I am grateful and thankful for the people that are in my life. You are the people that keep me going! Thank you for loving me for who I am, for helping me grow and laughing at my stupid jokes!