Hello! I hope that everyone is doing well. Man this week was exhausting! But We made it to Friday! I mean crawling along but we made it! Haha So I know that most of you know that I do online dating and it has been a very long time since I have done an online dating story but I hadn’t had one quite like this in a while!
So there I am walking in to work. Just minding my own business when I get a text message from a number I don’t know. It just said Hello. So I responded Hi. The other person asked how I had been and said it had been a long time since we had talked. I Told this person that I didn’t have the number saved. He told me his name was Devin and that we had talked a while back. He then sent me a picture. I absolutely do not remember this guy. He said that he would finally like to meet me if that is ok with me. I asked when it was that we were ever talking, Why did we not meet? We would have to build back up to that. I mean in my head I am thinking I am not just going to meet up with some guy that I clearly didn’t want to meet up with before. So he calls me, like a weirdo. haha I sent him to voicemail. Not only because I do not wanna talk to this stranger but mostly because I was at work. He leaves a voicemail saying that the reason we didn’t before was my fault. That I barely responded to his text messages and when he tried to set something up that I just ignored him, that I never wanted to talk on the phone and that I would just never commit to meeting him. I was thinking there was clearly a reason why.
I texted him and told him that I couldn’t talk when I was at work. He said that is fine he didn’t mind texting since I was at work but that he answered my questions in the voicemail. He then asked if there was a time he could call me. Told me I was cute and asked what I thought of him. So I asked him when it was that we were talking. He said at least a year ago but he doesn’t remember. I told him if we were going to meet we would have to start over. I asked the usual questions. Where do you live? What do you do? Do you have pets? Do you have roommates? Do you have siblings? Do you have kids? Do you have a wife? Yes… I usually ask all of these questions in the first couple conversations. And yes I do have to ask if they have a wife. Because if there is one thing I have found on dating sites it is that just because they are there doesn’t mean they don’t! He tells me he lives in fort worth, he has a younger brother, no roommates but yes a wife. I told him well maybe that is why we stopped talking if you have a wife. I would not have continued the conversation. He said “actually no. then I wasn’t married. You said I was pushy when all i tried to do was talk to you on the phone and make plans to meet you for coffee. I like to text and talk and convo as much as the next person. But at some point I want to meet you face to face. Do you understand where I’m coming from? You brushed me aside, ignored me and stopped talking to me. You barely responded to me to begin with.” I tried to get clarification. So he wasn’t married when we talked last, but he is now? Right? He said that was correct then he switched over to asking what i teach. and What got me into teaching. What do I get out of it? I was like no dude hold on… you are married? He said yes. I said ok… bye! He said just like that? Yes sir! I am not trying to be the other woman so yes goodbye. Woman code I don’t care if he is unhappy, or he says she knows or he wants to build friendships that isn’t going to happen with me. Nope… goodbye! He said that I wasn’t sorry that I was just sorry that he caught me and called me out on “it”. He at least wanted to be friends but since I wasted his time twice I could f*** off B***. I ended our conversation with “sir… you contacted me. I may take responsibility for “wasting your time” a year ago when a pandemic was new and weird whatever… but this time is on you!” 
So I am sitting here thinking “what just happened?” I mean I had not contacted him in who knows how long, I don’t remember him. I mean I am not the crazy one for not wanting to talk to him. He has a wife!
Dating online sucks! I get very frustrated with guys that think I owe them something. Isn’t dating just us trying to find someone who’s crazy compliments your crazy? I mean we all have a little of that. Online dating has made dating weird. People are more brazen, expectations have changed and the dating of a simpler time is gone. Do you know how many guys ask me in their opening message what my name spelled backwards is. Yes, I do know because 1) I have also seen Van Wilder and 2) because all of you think that it is so original so guys message it to me all the time! I have to constantly explain to guys why I, as a single woman, am not going to show up at their house at 10 pm on a week night. I mean come on. Have they not heard of the discovery ID channel!?That’s how I end up dead in a random parking garage! I told a guy last week that I didn’t go to strangers’ houses. Then he refused to text me after that because he said he really shouldn’t be talking to strangers. I mean don’t get me wrong I know what he wanted. I know what they all want and expect. Again I say, I don’t owe them anything. I shouldn’t have to explain why I won’t go to their house at 10 on a work night, or why I don’t want to get coffee with them, or why I won’t send them a picture, or why I won’t tell them the school I teach at. This is what dating has become!
I have faith that there is some guy doing the online dating thing that is just as frustrated as I am. Or there isn’t and my friends will introduce me to an age appropriate guy! Haha or the alternative, I will stay single forever! What is your craziest dating story? Well my lunch period is almost over! I hope everyone has a good Friday!
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