The Chronicles Of Nay

Happy Monday! I went and got my oil changed before work today. I had plans to do it last week then you know… ICE! haha I was there at 6:58 because they open at 7 and there were already three people ahead of me! I mean I was still there pretty early. All I needed was an oil change it was pretty fast. Had a pretty good cup of coffee and a nice conversation with one of the service guys. You know the ones that check you in. Ok, so what I know you all came here for. The date update.

I went out with the guy that I was talking to. Like I said I had some concerns. I knew from our conversations that he was divorced and he had a daughter. I was taken by surprise about that because his profile didn’t say anything about a kid. But cool fine whatever. He then told me that he lived with brother. I am not completely heartless I understand that circumstances sometimes beyond our control, sometimes by our own doing, lead us to places and we have to deal with it. So at the urging of some friends I tried to dig a little deeper on that issue. Well he is living with his brothers family. Like his brother and wife and 2 kids. This concerns me a little because it makes me feel like he is looking for somewhere to move.

I don’t have kids, dating guys with kids is always so tricky. Some of them are like here is all the information about my child. Others prefer to just tell you yes I have a kid. I have friends that date that have kids and they all have such different beliefs about it. I am not saying there is a right or wrong way but it is complicated to navigate the differences. Bumble has these child options: want someday, Don’t want, have & want more, have & don’t want more, not sure yet. If someone puts “don’t want” would one not assume that they don’t have any and they are not looking to have any? Right? So I was already concerned about his choice but he didn’t mention his daughter at all on the date. Not a thing!

Maybe I’m wrong, about all of it, maybe it is very judgmental of me. But that’s what dating is for right? To decide what we can and won’t put up with?

Ok so let’s recap. He did have a vehicle and he had a job…

So over all, yes he was a nice guy but given the opportunity I don’t think that I would go out with him again. Back to the drawing board! Well I was up much earlier than usual today so I am going to go to bed! I hope everyone has a great week!!